Adoption
The story of an 18-year-old meeting his birth mother for the first time is one we’ve heard before. The mother, a single parent with other children and limited resources, made the painful decision to give him up, convincing herself that it would be in the child’s best interest. After the adoption, she struggled with depression, even thoughts of suicide, but ultimately pulled through for the sake of her other children, continuing with her life.
Adoption, however, is rarely what it seems on the surface.
Adoption Is Not What It Is Thought To Be
Human beings are more than their physical forms—they are Soul/Spirit beings navigating a complex tapestry of life events that are rarely coincidental. In most situations, the roles we play as humans have been pre-planned by our soul and spirit before we are conceived. Every action, every relationship, and every consequence is part of an intricate design we helped create. Though slight changes may occur as events unfold, most participants—whether biological or adoptive parents—agree to these dynamics before birth.
Adoption is not different. It is almost always preplanned, preordained, and agreed upon by all parties involved, especially the child. The child chooses to be born into the birth mother’s genetic, emotional, and mental world, yet seeks to be raised in the adoptive mother’s environment, to experience her unique perspective. Fathers, too, play vital roles, especially during early childhood.
Each participant in this process has accepted the consequences and emotions—guilt, anger, remorse, shame—that come with it. These emotions are not random; they are designed to awaken the individuals to their own powers of self-healing.
The deeper secrets of life often lie just below the surface, wrapped in confusing and chaotic emotions that were part of the original spiritual plan. Adoption, neglect, and other childhood traumas are prearranged, complex experiences that serve as lessons in healing and growth. As Soul/Spirit beings, we have developed the means to reclaim our power and heal ourselves from these experiences.
At the core, that is why each of us exists: to learn to create our own reality without causing harm to others. This is one of the most challenging spiritual paths, filled with difficult lessons. Yet, the truth is that we are masters of this journey—we wouldn’t be here if we weren’t.