Vindication—Shame—Empowerment

(All example scripts highlight a female victim and a male abuser.)

You may have experienced a sense of vindication and self-empowerment because of movements like #MeToo, recent legal victories for abuse survivors, and society’s growing willingness to have open conversations about abuse and what constitutes unacceptable behavior. These changes are positive and exciting, but have they been transformative for you? Do you feel truly healed inside? When the initial empowerment fades and your daily life resumes, memories, emotions, and fears may resurface. Though they may have changed because of your empowering experiences, they can still be destructive if you haven’t released the shame your abuser forced upon you.

The shock of abuse can leave part of you stuck in that moment, in that time and space. Abuse affects not only your body but also your life force, emotions, and thoughts. The shame you felt wasn’t your own—it was your abuser’s. When you internalized their shame, every cell in your body absorbed it. This shock separates part of your soul, creating a sense of vulnerability and insecurity. Your soul will remind you of this imbalance, constantly seeking reintegration, but it needs your conscious action to return the shame to its rightful owner.

Often, abusive experiences replay unconsciously, showing up as flashbacks, emotional eruptions, or anomalies in your thoughts. Time alone won’t heal the wounds where shame is involved—it must be actively released. Only you can do this, even if you don’t feel capable now. You will.

During abuse, the shock disrupts your emotional and mental balance, trapping part of you in a loop of terror, fear, and helplessness. This memory loop would naturally fade, but shame acts as a glue, keeping your abused-self trapped in that time and space. Looking back at your abuse and the dreams it shattered can be incredibly difficult. Don’t rush—wait until you’re ready to approach it consciously as an observer, with the strength to manage the emotions that arise.

You survived, but the experience changed you, leaving a part of you behind. Your abused-self remains trapped in the fear and pain of that moment. This trapped part is constantly calling out for help, affecting your thoughts, emotions, and physical state, even if you don’t consciously hear it. Shame binds you to that past, and only by releasing it can you free yourself.

Shame is not an emotion that belongs to you—it was imposed on you. It’s a foreign energy, not part of your true self. To clear it, you need to return it to the person who gave it to you. Whether your abuser is alive or passed on, this return can take place. The aspect of your abuser that shamed you is not their whole self—it’s a hollow, weakened part trapped in the same time-space loop as your abused-self. When you confront this part of your abuser, you will be in control.

Releasing shame is essential because shame isn’t a real emotion; it’s a manipulative tool used by abusers to control others. When shame isn’t released, it can become part of you, making you believe you’re not good enough. If left unresolved, shame can perpetuate the cycle of abuse, either inwardly through self-harm or outwardly by passing it on to others. But it can be released through specific practices.

Skills for Releasing Shame

The skills required—relaxation, focusing, intent, visualization, and moving through time—are abilities you already have, whether or not you realize it. These skills are developed through meditation, contemplation, and spiritual exercises that every human engages with in their own way.

• Relaxation: Find a safe space where you feel protected and undisturbed. By consecrating this space, you invite spiritual support from your angels and unseen friends.
• Focusing: Stay present and aware of your intent. Abuse locks you in the past, and your adult-self can use this focus to journey back in time.
• Intent: Your intent is to observe your abused-self without getting drawn into the feelings of that moment. Know that these feelings are your abuser’s shame, not your own.
• Visualization: Use your senses to recall the space where the abuse occurred. As an observer, resist empathizing with your abused-self, remaining detached from the experience while observing the environment in detail.
• Time Travel: You already travel into your past each time you remember your abuse. By becoming more conscious of this, you can better use this ability to help your abused-self.

Three People Are Involved: You, Your Abused-Self, and Your Abuser

As the adult survivor, you are the only one capable of coordinating this release. You have the wisdom and strength to observe without becoming overwhelmed by emotions. Your abused-self, trapped in time, is waiting for your help. Together, you will return the shame to its rightful owner—the hollow aspect of your abuser.

During your abuse, your abuser transferred their shame into your body, emotions, and thoughts. That hollow part of your abuser is still trapped in time with your abused-self. However, you, as your adult-self, can move freely in and out of this loop. When the three of you meet in the past, you will free yourself and your abused-self by returning the shame to your abuser.

The Importance of Practice

Practice is the key to this process. By practicing, you build your awareness of your body, emotions, and thoughts, and you strengthen your ability to observe without being controlled by emotions. Repetition is more important than speed—this is about reclaiming your life.

Ensure you practice when you feel strong. Create a safe, comfortable space where your body will be protected while your consciousness travels back in time. If your emotions become too intense, open your eyes, refocus on your body, and remind yourself that you are safe.

Through practice, you’ll become aware of how you naturally travel into your past and how to observe your abuse without being drawn in. Eventually, you’ll be ready to take action—not as an observer, but as someone in control, helping your abused-self release the shame.

The Final Step: Returning Shame to Your Abuser

Once you are comfortable in your practice and aware of where the shame resides in your body, you’ll be ready to end the cycle. As you enter the time-space where your abused-self is trapped, you’ll take control. Help your past-self release the shame, guiding her to vomit or otherwise expel it into a container. When she’s free of the shame, you’ll feel it leave your own body too.

Then, return the shame to your abuser, making sure they receive it fully. This is a rare instance where force is acceptable—pour the shame onto them until it is completely returned. Once this is done, you and your abused-self are free.

By following this process, you will reclaim your power and release the shame that has held you back. You will emerge stronger, more empowered, and free from the past.