Shame, in its simplest form, can be both an emotion (a noun) and an action (a verb). It is a powerful force, passed from a perpetrator to their victim. Once a victim becomes infected by shame, it grows within them, compelling them to pass it on, like a virus, to another. This cycle creates a chain of wounded individuals, each burdened by the shame they did not create but compelled to release.
There are two types of shame: the kind imposed by others and the kind that arises within oneself. Victims of molestation and abuse are inevitably filled with the shame of their perpetrators. Once imbued with this foreign shame, the victim does not merely carry it—they become it. However, this transformation also makes them uniquely qualified to heal from it, becoming their own empowered healer in the process.
This healing journey is not about seeking a therapist to “fix” the victim. Instead, it is a skill of self-therapy that any victim can master. Victims often spend countless hours seeking relief from the traumatic consequences of their abuse. In their search, they naturally develop the multidimensional skills required to navigate time and space, making them seekers of deeper truths and healing.
A self-therapeutic session involves meditation, visualization, and focused intent—skills that victims may unknowingly develop as a result of their trauma. Abuse often opens channels into the psyche, which can lead to confusion as past-life emotions intertwine with present-life experiences. Women, in particular, may excel at this practice, as they tend to be more attuned to their body sensations, feelings, and thoughts. However, the impact of shame transcends gender.
The goal of this self-therapy is to travel back to the moment when the abuse occurred. In this space, the victim reconnects with the child they once were, confronting the perpetrator and reclaiming their power by removing the shame. This process involves returning the shame to its rightful owner—the perpetrator. In this space, there is no room for politeness or cordiality. The goal is empowerment and healing.
While this path takes time, for the victim, time can feel infinite without healing. True healing must occur in the time and space where the trauma originated. As the victim progresses, healing gradually brings advantageous probabilities into sharper focus. Often, this process leads the now-healed individual onto a new path—one that aligns with their life’s deeper purpose.
This is the science of the soul: restoring soul to psychology and recognizing that only the one who suffers the wounds can truly heal them.
Healing is not about hope, prayer, or mere desire—it is about action. It requires active engagement to find and confront shame, and through action, healing becomes possible. Once this is achieved, life belongs solely to the individual—free and empowered.